words with you


be_trueThese words seem so simple that at first glance, I simply nod and move on, almost missing their significance. Most days, I skim through other people’s lives and spaces online, admiring their glimmers of perfection, while I tread the dirty floors and debris of my own life. Or so it feels anyway. My self and space and work are anything but perfect. I can be so critical of myself. Often, I return to my own work, perhaps written on paper in ink, and draw that ubiquitous line straight through their middle, through their gut–revising the faults, omitting the flaws–all with idea of perfection. Although I try not to, I often do the same online where it feels less violent, where the delete button quietly erases what might possibly be rejected or somehow not as good as someone else’s _______. Frankly, it’s always tempting to revise my life to be what other people want, to be what might possibly be more popular. What I often forget is that sometimes in the self-criticism and process of omission, I am also somehow deleting myself, my own thought and voice–the very things that make me me (and not anyone else).

Typically, I might delete these soul-spilling words (or keep them to myself) in fear of being too serious or whiny or self-focused. Not today, friends. This time, I’m sharing my ridiculous, honest heart here with you, hoping to encourage you with these four little words: Be who you are. Your life and voice are significant. 

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    1. Author

      It’s always so encouraging and rewarding to hear those few words. Thank you for sharing.

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  2. I just read a similar post on another blog. This ‘self-doubt’ thing is such a curse and one that I face daily. I delete so many posts and so many photos out of fear. Now that people read my blog, don’t I have to impress them and write for them?

    So often I think that and, like you, I wind up deleting parts of me. Stepping back a few steps is so important. Seeing the bigger picture of who you are and the potential you have is a wonderful and encouraging thing that must be embraced.

    p.s. never apologise for an honest post like this one. They, to me, are the most beautiful

    1. Author

      Thank you for sharing your heart so honestly, Samantha. It’s such a tricky territory. Thanks for the encouragement. x

  3. So very true. Thank you for writing this! The very things that we can be so fearful of sharing are, so often, the very things that encourage and bless people to hear. And those things draw us deeper into relationship with people as well, as we are open and vulnerable with one another. There is such freedom and joy in being who we have been created to be! Grateful for your sharing this.

    1. Author

      Yes! I, too, am always grateful to read the real-ness of other lives. Thank you for the encouragement and reminder, Jenny. ;)

  4. I love the honesty and the fact that you are willing to expose your vulnerability. That’s what drew me to reading your blog and following you on Instagram! I heard a pastor say “don’t compare your ‘behind the scenes’ to someone else’s ‘highlight reel'”. I know it’s easier said than done, but I often have to remind myself of that as I read what others post, or see seemingly perfect lives through pictures. I love this post, sweet friend.

  5. So important to remember. None of us are perfect or have perfect lives. Although we may only post the happy bits and pieces online, it’s so much more human to hear the truth – imperfection is beauty! Thank you for this. Xoxo

    1. Author

      I completely agree, Arianna. At some point, all of the pretty stuff loses its charm. I imagine we all long for more authentic connection on some level. Thank you for sharing!

  6. Such an important realization. Find joy in knowing there ARE others who need you, want to hear from you, and delight in your thoughts! If anyone else, you know someone much greater who does. xo

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